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READ & DOWNLOAD You Can't Say That to Me: Stopping the Pain of Verbal Abuse -- An 8-Step Program 109 CHARACTERS ☆ E-book, or Kindle E-pub ´ Suzette Haden Elgin CHARACTERS You Can't Say That to Me: Stopping the Pain of Verbal Abuse -- An 8-Step Program Imply unpleasant;it is abusive destructive and freuently leads to escalatingarguments and physical violence Suzette Haden Elgin creator ofthe Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense has developed a uniue andrevolutionary way to break the cycle of verbal violence andeliminate it from your life without ruining your marriage riskingyour job or alienating friends or loved ones Dr Elgin shows youhow to neutralize verbal attacks and discourage future abusewith An 8 step program that helps you recognize the patter. Great book to make you think about how men and women talk to each other and the damage it does to anyone who is listening Her book is not about abusive people It is about all of us who might be unaware of the ways in which our remarks affect othersIf there are children in your house you should read this book It will change the way you talk

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READ & DOWNLOAD You Can't Say That to Me: Stopping the Pain of Verbal Abuse -- An 8-Step Program 109 CHARACTERS ☆ E-book, or Kindle E-pub ´ Suzette Haden Elgin CHARACTERS You Can't Say That to Me: Stopping the Pain of Verbal Abuse -- An 8-Step Program You can't say that to me Can't you do anything right I can'tbelieve you would feed that junk to your child What is this Anddon't tell me it's a casserole I already know that If youreally cared about me you wouldn't behave this way Soundfamiliar Each of us occasionally feels the sting of veryunpleasant language from those who are closest to us spouses employers friends relatives But freuent and repeated use ofunanswerable uestions scalding accusations sarcasm insinuations and even icy silence is than s. Elgin s book brought tears to my eyes as I recognized myself in the examples provided in her book What I liked best about this book is that I began to see that my relationship with my former husband was not my only instance of horrific verbal abuse It forced me to admit to myself that all of my intimate relationships with men have been verbally abusive and I came to recognize that verbal violence was a part of my regular communication with my siblings and my mother What could this mean I began to see that I was in fact the common denominator This is not to say that I deserve verbal abuse or that it is my fault The only coping skills I knew were to fall into my verbal abusers traps by pleading and debating Not to mention the emotional aftermath of feeling like a worthless human being Elgin provided me with an excellent selection of new verbal strategies While it would be great if these verbal skills have an effect on the abusers in my life the real victory is that I will now have control over how I react to the verbal abuse I will now no longer be reduced to a mewling child begging for forgiveness for the rainy weather that somehow was my fault What I struggled with was Elgin s implication that these systems are infallible I think that presentation is dangerously flawed Part of my abuse cycle is that my abusers had me convinced that my love was the most important thing in their world I would therefore forgive them believe them and accept their abuse because I felt responsible for loving them He loves me I would think underneath it all he is a good person and he needs me Therefore I endured these relationships and repeated my abuse cycle Elgin unfortunately gave strength to that misconception As I stated I cried from this book because my first thoughts were ones of guilt If only I had this book sooner I could have saved my marriage But I do know that even Elgin could not have helped me there The truth is you cannot change another person with your own actions You only have control of your own self An abuser must ultimately accept responsibility for the pain that they cause I do understand that the abuser inflicts pain to mask their own but I know very few abusers who are willing to face their demons and change I am excited to try her techniues in my life and begin empowering myself However abuse of any kind I will not tolerate any In my situation divorce was my only option Sometimes the only way to end the abuse is to say goodbye I wish Elgin had addressed that issue


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